My husband and I were devastated when we found out that I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).
We tried different treatments for a couple of years. When none seemed to work, my doc suggested I go for laparoscopy where they would burn the cysts in my ovary. After the surgery, the surgeon gave me a year before my ovaries would be filled with the cysts again. My gynec then referred me to a fertility specialist.
My fertility doctor decided on Intrauterine Insemination (IUI). And so began my days of taking hormonal injections, sonographies to check my ovulation status. Hubby’s trips to a private room in the hospital with a cup started. And they wouldn’t even allow me to help him. Poor guy! On the day of IUI, one could find me with my pelvis and legs facing the ceiling. The first few cycles were a failure. Without being discouraged we would start the same song and dance for the next cycle. I remember my last cycle’s IUI very clearly. To relax me, my nurse (God bless her) said “I love you”. I started laughing which helped me to relax, and boom, she completed her task at hand.
I think it was the nurse’s I Love You which worked wonders and on D-day, my pee stick showed 2 stripes. I will never forget this day. My husband and I hugged each other and cried tears of joy. Nine and half months later, we gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby.
My second pregnancy was a surprise. I found out a few weeks into the pregnancy. The homeopathy treatment I was taking had worked!
A woman going through hormonal treatments face huge mood swings, depression and self doubt. I faced it too. It took all of my will power and drowning myself in my work to fight these thoughts. On my worst days, my husband was always by my side, consoling me, assuring me that all will be fine, pushing me to keep myself busy with work. I have seen women spend most of their young life after these treatments without realising the damage it does to their body and mental health.. We, too, had decided to keep a time limit till when we would take these fertility treatments. After which, we would go for adoption.
We women need to understand that not able to conceive does not make us less of a woman. It’s absolutely ok! Ignore anyone telling you otherwise. My best advice in this situation would be to always stay positive, healthy and busy. It really helped me and it will help you too.
And hey, just hang in there.
Because of my advanced age, I had trouble conceiving my second. After 3 years of trying, 1 year with the help of a fertility clinic, and deciding on giving up, we ended pregnant on our last try. There so many emotions during those trying times, but the end result was worth all of it!
Yes, one goes through an emotional roller coaster during fertility treatment. But, positivity and keeping ourselves busy & distracted helps us.
I have PCOS and have started my journey of turning things around from the inside out. So I most definitely understand what you’re going through.
Thank you for this.
Your message is so powerful. I agree that not being able to do not make us less a woman. Thanks for sharing your story, to raise awareness about PCOS
Thank you for the encouragement ☺
Great advice! Staying positive always helps everything!
Yes, Emma. Being positive helps you to effectively handle tough situations, too.
Not a lot of people can write about their intimate struggles like you did. So much love and power to you and congratulations on your babies. Positivity really gets through everything.
This is a wonderful message. I’ll have to share it with a friend who is going through a similar situation. I always try to stay positive and encourage her. She’s hoping to have some “little feet” running around soon.
Your friend is lucky to have you at a time when she needs emotional support. I’ll keep her in my prayers for her wish to come true.
Thank you for sharing your story. This will be so helpful to others on the same journey.
I hope and pray it all goes well for you. My best wishes to you.
Oh, thank you, Aditi. But, yes, things did go well for me. I have 2 wonderful kids now. In fact, both teenagers.
this is definitely an emotional roller coaster, I have PCOS, but still, I’m very fertile. I don’t know-how!
but for me, this was also bad luck, I conceived immediately after my marriage but it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy, I lost my baby and the fellopian tube.
I was blessed with a baby girl soon after the recovery period, she is now about to be 3 yo. I’m so happy to have her.
Oh God! My friend had an ectopic pregnancy once. But, I am so happy you were blessed with a lil one.
We did 5 IVF with ICSI. No one understands the mental state of a couple that wants a child. The tunnel vision and hearing are there all the way. I had a miscarriage due to an allergic reaction to vitamins. Our daughter passed away the day after she was born which to this day, 20 years later, my heart still aches. A couple of more failures. We went from 9 eggs to 3 in a period of 9 months due to my age. At 41 with only 3 eggs I gave birth to my son.
The last IVF was pushed by me and I am grateful that my husband went along. You are correct, NEVER allow anyone to make you feel less than a woman or tell you what to do.
Oh my God, you have been through so much. My lots of hugs to you. But I am so happy for you that in the end your persistence paid off.
Thanks for being open and sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Yes, as women we have to be supportive to each other , whether it’s online or in real life. Much respect.
Wow! What a journey. I’m glad both methods were successful for you.
Wow. Thank you for sharing your journey. Homeopathy is wonderful. I am studying it now and also seeing great results for PCOS and infertility.
Best,
Dee
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Thank you for being so open. I don’t have PCOS but have had several miscarriages before having my two children and it sucked feeling alone. I love that you put your experience out there so women can connect and know that having a child just isn’t always easy. On many levels…
Several miscarriages! That must have been very hard. I hope you have healed emotionally. And I am very happy that you have 2 kids now. Stay blessed!
Thanks for your tips and advice. I know it must be hard going through something like this as a woman, but your story really inspired me.
Thanks for this article, very informative especially for someone who also wanted to have kids one day but at the same time scared as well. Thanks for sharing your story.
I know how painful it is get pregnant. My mom says, “You get it when you don’t want it and you don’t get it when you want it.”
A nice read though.
And you are a strong person! Hold onto tight, no matter whatever comes your way.
I have endometriosis and adenomyosis so infertility hangs over my life like a dark cloud. Thank you for sharing your experience and reminding us that battling infertility does not make us less of a woman. Sharing your story will be so helpful to so many women.
Thanks for sharing your story! It’s an inspiration to others.